Someone asked me how to have sex if suffering from Peyronie’s Disease, which is the curvature of the penis. Well, I can think of at least 69 other ways off the top of my head, but then I’ve never believed that penetration has to be the star of the show. It’s not that I don’t rate it. I just feel that it is a mistake to bill intercourse as the main event when it is actually the grand finale. The minute, or should I say the two to five minutes, a man spends thrusting inevitably signals the final curtain in any sex act and although that’s perfect if your story has had a great foreplay, too many men believe that the act of penetration constitutes sex in its entirety and as a result they end up having a rather abbreviated love life.
Though you are obviously concerned that you will never be able to have sex in the way that you are used to, it’s worth considering the possibility that the sex you are used to might not be the best that you could be having.
We are all creatures of habit and nowhere is this more evident than in our sex lives. Sooner or later cohabiting couples settle into a sexual pattern. They figure out what works and stick to it. And over time, what works gets compressed into a shorter and shorter time frame. Sex loses its urgency because you are “used to it”. You both know the script and you know the story has a happy ending so you don’t need to play it out as often.
Five times a night becomes five times a month and although you are still “having sex” so to speak, you are not exactly getting the maximum benefit out of the experience. It becomes a bit like watching a film on fast forward. You can work out the plot but you miss the subtlety, the nuances and even the popcorn.
Take a more positive approach to your situation and you may find that being forced to give your erection a smaller role in your performance turns you into a more creative sexual director. Your tongue and your fingers don’t need to be understudies. Give them a chance in the spotlight. And give your partner bigger billing, too.
Your penis doesn’t need to be hard for her to give you oral or manual stimulation and given that you can become partially erect and the curve is upwards rather than to the side, she should even be able to straddle you and insert your penis into her vagina. Though she won’t be able to thrust because you are partially flaccid, if she lies forward with her legs straddling just one of your legs, she’ll be able to press her hairy pubic mound into your groin. This will allow her to rub her clitoris and you will feel as if she is pushing into you. If she has strong pubic muscles, she can flex and release them to give you added stimulation, too.
Although your doctor is right when he says that there is no cure, small studies have reported improvements with oral vitamin E supplements. Though larger controlled studies have not been completed and the effectiveness of this treatment is not guaranteed, vitamin E is incredibly good for you, so unless you are on anticoagulent drugs (warfarin) there would be no harm in trying a course of supplements anyway.
You could try massaging the oil from vitamin E capsules directly into the bend in your penis. When buying vitamin E make sure the bottle is labelled “D-alpha-tocopherol”. This is the active natural compound and if the bottle doesn’t have these words on it, it is made of less effective synthetic versions.
You can also boost your intake of vitamin E with more vegetable oils, nuts, avocados, sun-dried tomatoes, almonds, sunflower seeds and cereals.